Comments on: Why Conform?

By: Marketing Ideas

Marketing Ideas — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 15:54:12 +0000

It was funny how after I quit my job and started out on my own, my friends that still worked the dead end job were a bunch of naysayers. Some even close personal friends almost seemed like they wanted me to fail for the sake of proving to themselves that a shitty job is still worth the security. It’s been two years and I highly doubt I will be going back to anything like that again. I ran into one not long ago and chatted for a few minutes as I returned to my table I could overhear his convo with his friends saying how cool I was for quitting and succeeding. Quite the change of events. Nice post Vic. You’re still my hero.

By: Denise (required)

Denise (required) — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 22:48:34 +0000

I would love to be a nonconformist, but according to the footer I am a Groupie! This is definitely a first!

I have always been a nonconformist. A square peg trying to fit in a round hole never works, Even after years of therapy they could not make me round. I do not see things like others do. Accepting this is what has been the hard part.

I was homeless in the sixties before people even new what that was. Living in a tent and having the county park as your address makes people wonder.

I owned a carnival ride and ran the circuit for a couple of years. Living like a nomad and having carnies as my friends. Sometimes sleeping under the truck when lodging wasn’t available. I even slept on the sidewalks of downtown Saginaw cause we pulled in late and had to wait to set up.

After years of therapy and being told that I needed to follow the rules that other considered normal, I found myself totally miserable. I could never walk in the shoes of others.

Today I am trying to get my soul back and find my voice. I just now choose to live the life of a hermit and find comfort in my choice. I believe I can ad value to the space I am taking up here on earth. I am just trying to do it my way.

I believe with the major changes going on in the world today, it is the conformists that are going to suffer the most. Without clear cut rules they have no path to walk. Whereas the nonconformist has always made his or her own path.

By: Elliott

Elliott — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 22:41:54 +0000

Vic,

You are dead on right and I had to laugh at the video, it kinda looked like my dancing, only better!

I used to live trying to please others and I was miserable. I realized that I really had to do some soul searching about what made “me”.

I am happier now, mostly with myself, but still have work to do. God has given me a wonderful wife and beautiful family and blessed me more that I am worthy of.

Good to see the new site and thanks for going to regular text on the comments, the custom text was really hard to read!

Blessings my friend!

By: Vic

Vic — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 17:03:13 +0000

I so hope it is the conference you mentioned because I so much want to hear all about it.

Love Ya!

Have a safe flight home!

By: Get some sleep, Vic!

Get some sleep, Vic! — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 16:48:25 +0000

Hola, Vic, just wanted to say hi! I am at a conference and the hotel has Facebook blocked (why?), so I’m a little out of touch. Should be back amongst the truly online in a few days. LOL!!

By: Vic

Vic — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 15:22:02 +0000

Rebecca instead of going the coward way of feeding you a very motivational response on how anybody can change their life and blah blah how about if we start from the begining.

Tell me what you would love to do not like but tell me if I had a magic wand that could with one swish provide you with what would be the ideal profession or job what would that be.

Also how much income would you need to survive until you where in your new job or profession.

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 14:22:23 +0000

I love your blogs. I have been thinking about what you wrote today and am stumped. I totally believe what you are saying — that you should live the life you love, but I have no idea how to make that happen at my age. I will be 55 in Nov, in a job that is just a job and doesn’t even pay well and not doing what I am good at or what I remotely enjoy. I am not complaining, but am seriously trying to figure out how — in real life, not just on paper — does one change their life at my age when you still have bills to pay and not a whole lot of extra time to get into a new career/job and don’t have the job skills to be real picky, etc… Again, I am not whining, just trying to get this figured out.

By: Vic

Vic — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 06:25:08 +0000

Talk about a dead on story! I wrote this today because earlier today I was speaking with one of my kids friend who needed some advice on choosing a career and this poor kid feels he is tied by his duty to do what his parents feel is better for him which is go to school finishing a doctor and all this kid ones to do is become an artist now this kid with out his parents knowing applied to Leeds College of Art in the UK now I have no idea if this is a good art school or not but all I know is this kid thinks this is his dream add to it he would living in the UK. I wonder how many people are in a situation like this or ended up living a life they hate because it was the right thing to do.

Keep making them moves girl. Love Ya!

By: lissie

lissie — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 06:01:35 +0000

I’ve seen the vid before (the story behind is that he travelled the world initally self-funded – finally got picked up by a big advertiser and they funded his subsquent trips fo which I think this is one of the vids from) .
It strikes a chord with me though – my partner is quiet and conservative, I’m not (not kidding) – when we first got together peole thought I might be with him as safe option give I was in my late 30s at the time. They were totally wrong – I was with him (and still am 12 years later) – becasue when we couldn’t get into a bar one tnight which had a great band playing tango – so he danced tango with me on the street – and cotninued to do so even when we got a crowd. This may not be a big deal to Puetor Rican but white, straight men in NZ or Austrlalia do NOT dance on the street. In fact generally they don’t dance sober or before 2am which ever comes first.

We still do it when there are good street performers playing something with rhythmn we will dance – quite often others will join in – usually they are 30 years younger than us – its like we’ve given them permission – cause we are doing it LOL

And you know – to this day – no one has come up to usa told us we shouldn’t dance – quite often we are thanked particularly by the musicians.

You don’t have to be given permission to live life – just DO IT!